Learning to Say It is Well When Your World is Falling Apart
Have you ever been through a time where everything seemed to be falling apart?
Maybe you’re going through a major transition that is shaking your world.
Or maybe you’ve felt the weight of grief or despair.
Why is it that when we go through times of suffering, God seems so far away?
We are so inclined to blame God. To ask: Why me? Why this?
Maybe you feel it’s unfair, no one deserves this pain. Maybe anger rises up and you’re ready to walk away from your faith.
I’ve been there.
I have faced despair, heartbreak, trauma, loss and hopelessness. I’ve struggled through difficult transitions that left me with feelings of depression, anxiety and loneliness.
I’ve blamed God and I’ve wanted to give up.
In one of my most difficult seasons, I almost did.
But from the depth of my despair I started learning one of the most powerful ways to find hope.
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It wasn’t a change of circumstance or the removal of my suffering.
It was the quiet utterance of three small words.
It is well.
As I slowly found the courage to speak this truth, it brought light into my darkness. The shadows that followed me began to fade in the searing light of Christ.
Hope began to form despite a circumstance that seemed hopeless.
And I slowly found to a faith strong enough to withstand and a hope that carries me through.
As I face each new trial, I struggle, I doubt, but I always learn to say, “it is well” and find the hope I need to keep walking.
So what is this process? How do we learn to say, “it is well” when our world is falling apart?
Don’t Rely on Your Feelings
Emotions are fickle. They come and go with the wind. One minute, we could be filled with happiness and the next we could be swept into despair.
Emotions are an important indicator. They help us discern many things.
But we cannot rely on our emotions for our hope because Christ is our only true hope.
When we allow our feelings to dictate our faith, we will be tossed back and forth by our circumstances.
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How great is it that we have a Solid Rock as our foundation? Christ has come so that we may have this hope in the midst of despair.
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." -John 16:33
No matter what goes on in this world, when we base our hope in Christ, we can stand firm in the midst of despair.
When you are tumbling through feelings of grief, hopelessness, loneliness and despair, it is important to do these three things.
1. Fill Your Mind With Truth
Satan knows how hard it becomes to remember the truth when we are suffering. He wants us to flail through our struggles with no sense of direction and no foundation of truth.
When you suffer, it will often be the hardest to reach for your Bible and spend time in the Word.
But it is also the most important time to fill your heart and mind with the Word of God.
It is okay if you don’t want to. It’s okay if it brings up feelings of betrayal or anger.
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It is often helpful to find a Bible reading plan. Or to choose a book and read through it.
As you spend time daily in the Word, you will reroute your feelings and find the strength to see beyond the moment.
2. Find Accountability
There is power in fellowship. When we are lost, it is our friends that can help point us back to Christ. When we struggle, it is that connection that can help us keep our eyes in the right direction.
I have had numerous mentors and friends that have sat with me in the hopelessness and reminded me that my hope doesn’t rest in my circumstance.
But these powerful relationships would have been nothing without my willingness to be transparent. I had to be willing to ask for help and to share my pain.
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And yet, in each new place, I struggle to open that door. I struggle to find the courage to be transparent and ask for help.
God has done some amazing things when I have laid this request before Him.
He has opened doors that seemed squeezed shut. He has provided friendships and mentors when I felt alone and afraid.
And I know that He will do the same for you.
Ask Him to open the door with someone in your life to be this accountability. Ask Him for the courage to step through the door when it is opened. And be on the lookout. Because God hears our prayers and He is always ready to provide what we need.
3. Speak the Truth-No Matter What
When we face suffering of all kinds, Satan wants us quiet. He knows that if we stay in our heads, he has room to work.
He gains a foothold when we fail to stand firm in truth.
I am a strong believer in the power of speaking truth.
I know that when I’ve been in dark times, I found it almost impossible to say words of truth aloud. It was as if there was a block, someone covering my mouth. I couldn’t get the truth I thought was in my mind, out of my mouth.
But once I did, I immediately felt Satan leave.
There is power in speaking truth. There is power in proclaiming the Word of God.
When we say it aloud, we not only speak to Satan, but we speak to ourselves.
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It may start in only a faint whisper. But as you begin to speak the truth aloud, you will find strength to stand up and proclaim it.
So if you are struggling with something right now, ask God for strength and proclaim, “It is well.”
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. -2 Corinthians 4:17
Our hope rests in the one who has overcome the world. No matter where our circumstances are, no matter what feelings are tearing at our hearts, stand firm and proclaim where your hope rests.
It is well.
such an encouragement
God bless you
Such sweet, timely encouragement! Thank you, Nicole!
Thanks so much, Carlie!
This was such an encouraging reminder of one of the toughest times in my life. We really have that choice to make of where we put our focus, and when we focus on God, we can know that it is well. Thank you! Stopping by from Sitting Among Friends.
Definitely, Rebekah. Thanks for stopping by 🙂
This was just SO good. It’s true if let our emotions lead we could easily get swept away. I’ve found that even if my flesh is weak, and I don’t even WANT to try, if I can just get the words out of my mouth they begin to speak to my own spirit. This post is such good wisdom, I’m sharing it all over the place so that others will happen upon it during their time of need. Thank you for this
Yes, even when we don’t want to, that is the most powerful time! Thanks, Jen!
Love your points here. It is indeed well with our soul, for the Lord is in the midst of all the storms we face today. I love this “There is power in proclaiming the Word of God.”
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So often, I’ve been thankful for the rational input and perspective of my good husband. You’re right, we do need accountability and the gift of others speaking into our lives.
Definitely, Michele! Thanks for stopping by 🙂
Thank you for these powerful reminders Nicole. Great and uplifting read.
These are such good reminders to think of! I love filling your mind with truth! That is what keeps me grounded when life is in trying moments.
Yes, it is so important to shine Christ’s light on our pain! Thanks, Keri!
Such great insight here Nicole. In those valley times I have to remind myself that everything is sifted through God’s hands before it comes my way. He is faithful and nothing is ever wasted. He will bring us through somehow. Thanks for sharing.
Amen to that, Rosie. Thanks!
Such wonderful reminders!
What an inspiring read. Everything you wrote is so true and I get that way sometimes. These are great tips and thanks for sharing. It really opened my eyes and made me see things in a new way when it comes to this.
I’m so glad, Jackie. Thanks for stopping by!
Very good truth – sounds like a lot of what I have read from the Proverbs 31, Lysa Terkqyerst books, Made to Crave and Unglued. Good truths.
I have yet to read those two books, although I do love Lysa! Thanks, Crystal!
I think finding accountability can be greatly overlooked when we face hard times. We don’t see it as a way to help keep us full of the truth. What great reminders here. Thank you for sharing your heart!!
I love this. Sometimes when everything is dark it’s so hard to see light. But recognizing that all is well, and all will BE well can be so powerful.
Yes, Corey, trusting that the light is there regardless of our viewpoint is so powerful!
I love this. When you’re world is falling apart, sit yourself down, and relinquish everything to God. Say “thank you for allowing this into my life” because you know God will use it for good!
Yes, yes, yes, Leah. Thanks for stopping by!
I love this so much!!! I often find myself falling into the “Why me?” trap, but reminding myself that this is God’s path for me and trusting His lead has helped me get through every dark and trying time in my life. ?
Dear Nicole, thank you for sharing about the hard part of life. On this side of the dark place, I am convinced that only a Heavenly Father, who loves us much more than we can imagine, would allow His child to go there. The journeys there and back are hard and lonely, but it’s there that we discover (and internalize) the greatness of His love, grace, and power. I wish I would have had your three encouragements to healing. Blessings from your neighbor at God-Sized Dream.
Thanks so much for sharing, Alice! 🙂
Love you points here! That hymn It Is Well has always inspired me and reminded me of the steadfastness we can have because of our faithful God. I’ve actually been thinking a lot about this verse: “If your law had not been my delight, I would have perished in my affliction.” Psalm 119:92 and it fits well with your message.
That verse does fit so perfectly, Dani! Thanks so much for sharing 🙂
Amen to this: “But we cannot rely on our emotions for our hope because Christ is our only true hope.” I’m learning to say “it is well” in my current season of transition too, especially when my emotions threaten to overtake me. Visiting from #dreamtogether today.
I’m so glad you’re learning to lean on God. It is so hard, but worth every second. Thanks, Sarah!