Today, I'm excited to welcome Sarah Geringer as she brings us hope with her powerful story. This post will help you pray through an unequally yoked marriage and find encouragement and strength!
If you are in an unequally yoked marriage, I understand your hidden heartache. For 17 years, I have been unequally yoked to my husband. But God has blessed our marriage as two believers on different spiritual planes.
When you are unequally yoked, it affects almost every area of your marriage. Being unmatched in your most important point of connection can create a lot of friction and disappointment.
As a new, disillusioned bride 17 years ago, I was driven to the scriptures to find hope. God lovingly comforted and corrected me. He showed me how to prioritize love for my husband despite our differences.
We’ve had some hard times in our marriage, including a brief separation. But as I stayed close to God and continued to show love to my husband, God has given me new hope.
These six scriptures have helped me the most. I pray they will help you too.
The Creator is your Husband. Isaiah 54:5 NLT
Though my husband and I don’t share spiritual fellowship, God is my perfect “spouse” and wants me to share my heart with Him. This verse comforts me because I can be my full self with God and get my spiritual needs met in His presence.
Even if I had a husband who was on the exact same spiritual plane, he couldn’t meet all my needs. Only God is my perfect Husband who perfectly meets my needs, which sets me free to love my husband with realistic expectations.
If a fellow believer has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to continue living with him, he must not leave her. And if a believing woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to continue living with her, she must not leave him. For the believing wife brings holiness to her marriage, and the believing husband brings holiness to his marriage. 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 NLT
For a long time, I wondered if God would bless our marriage since I went into it knowing we were unequally yoked. The more I studied this passage, the more peace I felt. I must focus on the present instead of the past. God wants us to stay together no matter what.
According to this scripture, I have the great honor and responsibility of bringing holiness to our unequally yoked marriage. What a blessing to serve Jesus in that way! I can show Jesus to my husband simply by being loving.
Even if some [spouses] refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives. 1 Peter 3:1-2 NLT
As the more spiritually motivated spouse, I’m often tempted to speak when I shouldn’t. I had to learn the hard way that reciting Bible verses, leaving religious articles open on his desk, or inviting my husband to join Bible study groups wasn’t wise or loving.
I can show love to my husband by being a woman of integrity who honors and respects him. This scripture has helped me love my husband without the pressure of needing to evangelize him.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 NIV
When you have an unmet need in your marriage, you have a weak area that Satan will attack. He will find your trigger points and try to trick your heart into believing something else is better.
You cannot leave your heart unguarded in an unequally yoked marriage. It’s important to know your triggers. Ask the Holy Spirit to prick your conscience when your weakness is exposed. Then flee from temptation with God’s help; I have found particular help in Ephesians 6:10-18.
You must guard your heart against discouragement, which is Satan’s foothold. When your heart is guarded with prayer and healthy choices, you can love your husband with no regrets.
Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying. Romans 12:12 NLT
You always have reason to rejoice, because your hope for your marriage is based on your confidence in God, not in your spouse. You can ask the Holy Spirit to make you patient in the troubles you are sure to face. When you are weary of praying the same old prayer for your spouse’s spiritual growth, this verse spurs you on.
This verse has helped me love my husband because it helps me take the long view. My faithful prayers are a form of love for him, and they keep my heart connected to him and to God.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:7 NLT
True love perseveres. In an unequally yoked marriage, you will need to persevere through many trials. To love like Jesus loves, we must put our love into action day after day.
Learn your spouse’s love language and speak it to your spouse through actions. When you feel lonely or discouraged, ask God to give you the love to share with your spouse. He has answered that prayer for me many times, and I know He will answer it for you too.
Sarah Geringer writes about Finding Peace in God’s Word at sarahgeringer.com and is the author of three books. She is currently writing a blog series on loving your spouse in a difficult marriage. She has also prepared a special resource package for you in her library, titled Hope for the Unequally Yoked Marriage. Sarah lives in her beloved home state of Missouri with her husband and three children, right in the heart of prime viewing for the Great Eclipses of 2017 and 2024.