How to Find Hope in the Sea of Grief

It becomes so much harder when a loss is unexpected.  There weren’t the days to come to grips with reality.  There wasn’t the time to say what needed to be said.  There was no closure.

How do you move on in the middle of the abyss?  How do you press forward into encouragement and find the way back to who you were before?

Searching For Reason

The biggest question that arises among grief is, “Why?”

Why did God allow this tragedy?  Why does God allow good people to die?

It is innate within us to search for a reason behind our pain.  It is a part of the healing process to glean an understanding of our loss. 

Oftentimes we see God working right away.  And other times there just doesn’t seem to be any rhyme or reason to our pain.

Finding purpose in our grief is one of the greatest doors to healing.  Whether that purpose is something we can accomplish as a result of the loss or something that we trust only God will do, seeking to bring meaning out of pain is a powerful way to cultivate healing a broken heart.

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This can be done when we see God’s hand working in our situation.  When others are brought to Christ because of a death or when an organization or cause is formed, we can begin to find peace in something that once felt so wrong. 

The biggest caution that I can offer through this process is to remember that we cannot lean on our own understanding.  Sometimes we can catch a glimpse of understanding our pain, but more often than not, we must trust and rely on God when we cannot see past the pain.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5

We can hold onto the promise that His plan is greater than anything we can imagine.  We have to hold onto the truth that God is good and His plan is good no matter what we feel at the time.

We see from such a limited perspective in time, but God sees from afar.  Even though we feel we are surrounded by chaos and pain, God can see the beautiful masterpiece that is being weaved into our lives.

We just need to hold onto Him and do our best press forward in this season of grief.

Healing in Community

There is a healing power in the connectedness of our souls in the midst of grief.  When we come together as a community to mourn and support one another, healing is sparked.

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When there is grief of any kind, you must seek to find healing within a community. 

Some tragedies elicit a gathering of an entire town, but some may be much smaller.  A community can be anything from a family, a few friends, a church, a school or a town. 

When we gather together to share in our grief, we remember that we are not alone.  You are not the only one being swallowed by a sea of pain.  There are others who will mourn with you and stand by you through this time.

Don’t stand alone in the sorrow.  Don’t allow your heart to believe the lie that you can do it on your own.  Reach out and find support.  And in that support you will begin to find healing.

Trusting in He Who Is Greater

Above all, we must remember our greater calling in this world.  We are not called to a pain-free and struggle-free life.  We are called to suffer for the name of Christ.  We are called to sacrifice our worldly desires for His greater desire. 

In the midst of pain, we can take comfort that God is greater than our grief and sorrow.  He will meet us where we are and He will comfort us.  But He won’t leave us there.  He will bring us to a place of healing and redemption.  In time, your heart will mend.  You will find restful sleep again and you will experience moments of joy again. 

In time, God will transform your heart and the sorrow will fade.

We must remember that we have a hope greater than this world.  We have hope in Christ.  He mourns for our loss and for the brokenness of this world, but He died so that we could have hope in Him in moments like this. 

He gave himself up for a broken world and because of that, we can hope for a day with no more sorrow.  There will be a time when tears will cease to fall and all our pain will dissolve. 

You can hope for that time in the midst of grief.  Remember to place your hope in Christ and He will slowly heal your broken heart. 

Jesus said, “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4.  

He is with you in this time.  He will comfort you when you lean on Him. 

Though the pain is great, you must cling to the hope you have in Christ to bring you through. 

I wrote this post in honor of a good friend, Ryan Didone, who through his life brought many to Christ. 

For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. Philippians 1:21